would it be posible to get a list of which mods work together? i love them all but cant work out which ones are compatable with which
That's a great idea, I just don't know how we can do it yet. So many mods are being updated / improved so quickly that it's kind of a moving target. I'm sure you aren't alone in thinking that would be useful, because I'd like that, too! Once things settle a little (depending on how quickly we get another release), I'm sure we'll get something put together. Maybe a Google Docs spreadsheet, or something similar. Once the game stabilizes, we'll have a wiki and all of that can go there.
I have a feeling we'll end up seeing super-mods being constructed at some point that combine popular mods into prepackaged joy (Mount & Blade fans know what I'm talking about). I've already seen some clever merges showing up.
Aren't these mods fantastic, though? Every time I see a new one I'm impressed by the creativity and cool ideas -- and awesome artwork!