Hello, I was having the same trouble and I just followed Wisp's instruction. Set vmparams to 8GB.
We have the same setup, my GFX is 6GB.
I am using a few more mods and I haven't seen it readout more than 2.7GB on the console.
Anyway, this helped me so maybe it could help you.
I did remove Blackrock Drive Yards because it lists dependencies in the wrong field in the mod_info... what else could be wrong
I recommend removing any mod that can't get something like dependencies in the right field.
enabled mods
{"enabledMods": [
"PAGSM",
"yunrutechmining",
"advanced_gunnery_control_dbeaa06e",
"A_S-F",
"apex_design",
"raccoonarms",
"better_deserving_smods",
"BSC",
"bountiesexpanded",
"bricky",
"HMI_brighton",
"CWSP",
"CaptainsLog",
"CFT",
"Csp",
"CSP",
"chatter",
"timid_commissioned_hull_mods",
"lw_console",
"istl_dassaultmikoyan",
"DetailedCombatResults",
"diableavionics",
"Diktat Enhancement",
"domhist",
"edshipyard",
"seven_nexus",
"Everybody loves KoC",
"extra_system_reloaded",
"XLU",
"HHE",
"fleethistory",
"GachaSMods",
"GrandColonies",
"GMDA",
"HMI_SV",
"HMI",
"hte",
"HIVER",
"IndEvo",
"Interstellar Federation Refurbished -unbalanced-",
"Imperium",
"timid_xiv",
"jaa",
"JYD",
"kyeltziv",
"LTA",
"lw_lazylib",
"ArkLeg",
"luddenhance",
"exshippack",
"MagicLib",
"Mayasuran Navy",
"missingships",
"more_hullmods",
"Musashimanufactor",
"ness_saw",
"nexerelin",
"oas",
"ORA",
"progressiveSMods",
"roider",
"rotcesrats",
"tahlan_scalartech",
"SCY",
"SEEKER",
"swp",
"mayu_specialupgrades",
"speedUp",
"sun_starship_legends",
"stelnet",
"StopGapMeasures3",
"superweapons",
"tahlan",
"star_federation",
"TORCHSHIPS",
"underworld",
"uaf",
"US",
"vic",
"vayrashippack",
"weftinships",
"whichmod",
"XhanEmpire",
"yunru_arsenal",
"yunru_cissonius",
"yunru_cunt",
"yunru_ht",
"yunruhullmods",
"yunru_midline_expansion",
"yunru_ose",
"yunru_pirate_collection",
"yunruworlds",
"yunrucore",
"mir_np",
"prvExtra",
"prv",
"shaderLib"
]}