Fair... I will look into using the "harass option" more. I also alwasy use the command period as much as I can to command all points and set targets on the most important enemies to kill.
then again I just re-did the fight again (this is like the 20th try) this time no losses, all dooms destroyed relative ease. Its literally just the randomness of the AI and how it chooses to spread out. This time the enemy dooms were away from the main bulk fighting a single destroyer each with no support frigates.
I HATE this games AI and its command system, specifically that the AI doesn't take advantage of easy opportunities and walks into bombs/gunfire freely. You can work around it, but I get that its probably the hardest part of the game to make work right. Just make my AI work the same way as the enemy AI though at the very least.
Also I hate flying ships in this game. I hated analogue stick shooters and I sure as hell hate this games controls. I cannot manage the flux and aiming and moving myself.
You sound very upset with the game of no fault of its own. It's pretty refined, clearly, nothing always works out the way you want it to in any situation unless you deliberately make it so, and this is not the appeal of the game you already have many tools to your disposal to outclass any fleet two fold you just need to learn. The skills you acquire by a factor of almost 3 times that of an officer should show you how much is in your favour currently. I wish you the best!