How are you using your phase? Phasing really really early is an obvious bad idea. Took me a few tries to figure that out though, haha.
l like using the Shade.
one trick i like to use it's to get the zero flux speed bonus, then pick a straight line that will take me behind the enemy ship and coast on phase..
then un-phase and use the EMP weapon.
i have 1 AM Blaster on a turret and 2 Tac Lasers on the other 2.
the Tac Lasers are used primarily against fighters.
the 2 hardpoints are left empty to give me more points for hull mods and flux control.
hull mods:
Optics to give my lasers a much needed range boost and Advanced Turrets to counter the nerf of the Optics.
Resistand Flux Conduits to give me more flux control.
all remaining point in Flux controls.
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edit:
i think i'm gonna remove the AM Blaster, which i mostly use for finishing blows anyway.
and replace it with another Tactical Laser and use the remaining points for the point defense hull mod.
this way, i can shoot down missiles instead of cloaking all the time to avoid them.